I sometimes think that, despite what the movies might lead us to believe, the most complicated and turbulent relationship we will ever experience is the one we have with our own body. And it can be a lifetime of turbulence and flaw-finding. Seemingly inevitable and constant nit-picking about ourselves and how we look based on...well, what? Some strange idea of what is perfect. An idea of perfection that is constantly changing so we, of course, can never keep up. Once we move past those early carefree years of childhood and enter puberty we can get caught in the trap of feeling as though our body is never quite right, it is never quite good enough, it never quite does what we want it to do. Our thighs are too big, our boobs are too small, we’re too short, too tall…too something. Aargh! It’s enough to drive us crazy…and sometimes it does.
It is almost universally accepted that most women are pretty crap at saying 'no' to things. When we do manage to say no to something we end up feeling more guilty than a teenager sneaking home from a party and probably spend a ridiculous amount of time explaining why we can't do it and then sit at home analysing what we said. Arghhh! Not good ladies, not good. By the time we reach 40 saying NO in a guilt-free, explanation-free way is something we really ought to have mastered...
One of things I have really noticed about getting older is that there are a lot of things that, to put it bluntly, I just don’t give a crap about anymore. If you had asked me 20 years ago (heck even 10 years ago) what success looked like to me it would be pretty different to the way I see it now.
That’s why today’s '40 things every Woman should know after 40’ is all about what success looks like for us as individuals.
One thing that really frustrates me is when my husband's away from home and something breaks/gets blocked/needs fixing etc. and I suddenly feel like the helpless little woman at home....Bleugh! No thank you. If something needs to be done then I want to be able to get on with it myself! That's why todays '40 Things Every Woman Should Know After 40' features a few basic Home Repairs that every woman (including me) should know. You'll never feel helpless again...
I just love that quote by Louise Hay. Hell yes to being 'comfortable with growing older' and enjoying every minute of every year in whatever way we want to. We can waste too much time on 'if onlys' and 'what ifs'...instead let's celebrate where we are now for soon enough we will be saying 'remember when' about today!
Okay, let's continue with our '40 things every woman should know after 40' series. You can catch up with the first two here. Number three is something that I still struggle with - not the giving but the receiving. Intrigued? Here it is...
Welcome to #2 in our series of '40 Things Every Woman Should Know After 40'. This week's post had me going 'really?!' and 'how did I not know this already!'.
So what is #2? I think the image above gives it away really...
Yes, it's how to use Google Search properly. Honestly I had no idea how many little tricks there are to make searching for something so much easier. I have probably wasted dozens of hours searching inefficiently over the years....but not any more. If like me you use Google regularly to find out a million different things from locations of restaurants etc. to facts, figures, product searches and George Clooney's favourite things (ahem!) then you will love these tips...
Another new regular - I am loving setting all these up this week! Every Wednesday I will be sharing something that I think every woman should know after 40 (and even before!).
So, in (belated) honour of World Cancer Day which was last week on February 4th, #1 on the list is:
'How to Give Yourself a Breast Exam'.
“Forty percent of diagnosed breast cancers are detected by women who feel a lump, so establishing a regular breast self-exam is very important.” ~ National Breast Cancer Foundation
Yep ladies, by now you should know the importance of regular breast examinations and even though after 40 you get the chance to go for regular mammograms you still need to be doing this check EVERY month. I know it can be easy to forget or might feel a bit weird or embarrassing but you know what, by 40 we really shouldn't feel embarrassed about our body anymore. Think of all the things it's got you through, let's show it a little love and self-care.
Below is a great little video that talks you through what to do step-by-step. I'm sure that, like me, you know at least one person fighting cancer, perhaps a family member or a friend, or, again like me, someone who didn't win their battle. With the latest statistics indicating that 1 in 2 of us may get cancer at some point in our lives let's make sure we are doing everything we can to take charge of our own health. Early diagnosis means early treatment and that ladies means a massively increased chance of beating cancer. So what are you waiting for...
Okay, a quick recap of the things you are looking our for:
~ unusual shape, size or colouring of breast/s
~ dimpling, puckering or visible lumps/swelling on the breast/s
~ inverted nipple or change in position
~ redness, soreness or rash
~ any fluid coming out of the nipple
~ any lumps you can feel under the skin of the breast/s
Remember that the best time to do a breast exam is a few days after your period ends. Just before your period your breasts can be a little lumpy or tender so this is not a good time to do a self-exam. You should do a breast exam every month.
You can read more about doing breast exams and a bit about mammograms here
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